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One Billion Rising

One in three women becomes a victim of violence in her lifetime.

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February 14 is the day to make a different. Take a stand.

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Find out when and where the One Billion Rising event will be held nearest to you.

Be there. Support. Protest. Lobby. Demand change.

I know where I’ll be…

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I Am Woman

It’s Thursday, and you already know that I’m thankful. In addition to Thursdayness, there’s WOMANNESS today! It’s International Women’s Day, so it only seems right to be thankful for my womanhood.

I’ve always identified as a woman FIRST. Not as a race, nationality, religion, age, or level of education. Girl. Woman. Lady. Female. Always.

This is a ladies only style of body?! Well, YIPPITY-DOO-DAAAH! EEEEEEE!

Even though I’m a woman:

  • I wear pants pretty much every day
  • I do planks, push-ups, and other strength/muscle-building activities
  • I eat as much as I want
  • I have cake and ice cream late at night
  • I love a woman
  • I keep my hair super short
  • I refuse to wear makeup every day
  • I don’t shave my legs every couple of days
  • I refuse to wear pantyhose unless I’m going to an older person’s funeral
  • I hold a full time job
  • I do not like puppies, kittens, red roses, or the colour pink

As I woman, I am not criticized for:

  • Wearing skirts, dresses, makeup, or heels (on the rare occasions that I feel like it)
  • Having my nails done
  • Keeping my eyebrows groomed
  • Owning pink things (Bright pink is the only one that I can tolerate)

Because I am a woman:

  • I can give birth to more than ideas, plans, and art… I can bring life into the world
  • I know what it’s like to be underestimated (and to prove people wrong)
  • I hear cat calls, kissy noises, and exclamations like, “OY! SEXY!” every day
  • I’m often told that I am beautiful
  • Some men think they have the right to touch me (and they are sadly mistaken)
  • There are lots of expectations of me (that may or may not be met)
  • I get away with a few things
  • People try to fit me into a box (which could never work!)
  • It’s upsetting to people that I love a woman
  • I am a target
  • I always carry pepper spray and a stun gun
  • Society tells me to be careful how I dress, because that choice determines how I should be treated
A lot of things come along with being a woman. There is good, and there is bad. There are things that I like, and things that annoy me. We do not all agree, and we do not all live the same lifestyles. Among us are feminists, atheists, Christians, Muslims, lesbians, bi-sexuals, members of parliament, presidential candidates, divas, mechanics, lawyers, doctors, artists, stay-at-home moms, bloggers, writers, runners, yoga-enthusiasts, bad drivers (lol), soccer moms, nomads, minimalists, and extremists. We don’t all like each others. We aren’t all friends. The thing that we have in common is that WE ARE WOMEN. We share struggles and triumphs. We sympathize and empathize with each other. We champion some of the same causes. We make mistakes. We work hard. We do what we can. Because we can. Now, LET ME HEAR YOU ROOOOOARRRRR!

As Helen Reddy put it:

I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman

You can bend but never break me
’cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
’cause you’ve deepened the conviction in my soul

This one is for all you crazies out there:

I’m a Bitch <— I have no idea why this won’t embed. *sighs*

Why are you happy/thankful to be a woman?

Go Braless!

Day 16 – Someone or Something you definitely could live without

Bras. I really don’t understand why they are such a big deal in society. For a woman to walk around in public without a bra on… Can you imagine? It’s as though breasts are dirty, and need to be tucked away. Now, for the better endowed women, I understand the need/desire to wear a bra. It probably reduces sweat, make them feel less heavy, etc. For me, a little ol’ B-cup, bras make no sense. I often joke that I could just wear two band-aids (to keep the headlights in check) or scotch tape and be good to go. When picking out tank tops, I always go for the ones with the shelf-bra. That’s one less piece of clothing I need. Really though, how did we get here? I did a little research, and my findings are interesting. I’ll share them as succinctly as I can without losing meaning, and provide some links for further reading.

Brief History

  • 1500s – Corsets became popular (for lifting breasts)
  • 1900s – Bras introduced (to provide  more comfort than corsets)

More Bra History

Why Women Wear Bras

  • SupportPssh! I don’t need support for these lil babies.
  • Morality & Decency. I have to comment that this is just ridiculous. It is a valid concern, but at the root, it’s ludicrous. Some women wear bras to SEX IT UP while other wear them for the opposite reason. Insane! Yes, I know there are various types for various purposes… Still, it’s crazy.
  • Unspoken Rule of Society. I believe this is directly linked to Morality & Decency point.)
  • Anti-sagging. (Yes, a bra will left them for as long as you wear it. There seems to be some evidence, however, of bras causing sagging. Imagine that!
  • Comfort (Reduces sweat and slapping.) THIS, I understand.
  • Illusion. I admit that I have worn bras to make my breasts look larger on a few occasions. Kind of like applying white eyeliner to make my eyes look bigger. No? Not the same thing. Oh.
  • Exercise. During a presentation on Shark Tank, a woman said something like, “When a woman exercises, the only things that should be bouncing are balls.” I’m with her on that one.
  • Breastfeeding. Make sense. Leaking is real.

Bras have even been found to be a contributor to breast cancer!

Bra Alternatives

  • Camisoles
  • Tops with shelf bras. Nowhere near as ridiculous as a regular bra as it’s just an extra layer underneath the top with elastic under the bust area to keep it in place. These are my absolute favourites.
  • Adhesive cups. Theeese are pretty cool!
  • Disposable stickers. Some of them even give a little lift action!
  • Loose-fitting tops.
  • Leotards.
  • Men’s Undershirts.
  • Vests.
  • ZeeBraz Still a bra, but looks pretty cool and less restrictive.
  • Breast Rest This looks interesting… It’s sort of a support system that goes around the breasts, so they’re still out in the open and able to breathe. Worth a look.

I’m glad this question prompted me to look into the whole bra thing. Bras are a form of oppression for a lot of women. If you’d rather not wear them, don’t. Find the alternative(s) that work(s) best for you. I’m already thinking about the changes I can make, the purchases I should make, and the confidence I will definitely find within myself to be more comfortable.

Also, funny that I’m wearing these socks today:

Strength. Courage. Hope.

Want to read a bit more?

The Purpose of the Bra

Bra-Free Experiences

Going Braless Forum

More Detailed Info On My Points