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Sunday Stealing Meme

Sunday Stealing Meme Questions

1. When you’re home alone, do you still close the door when you use the restroom?


2. If you have to go grocery shopping, would you rather go alone or with someone?

I hate grocery shopping here, and feel better about it if the task is split. Sometimes, I feel like I get it done faster when I go alone. It really depends. One thing I like about going alone is knowing what I have in the cart, and what the cost of the items is. I keep a tally in my head.

3. It’s your best friend’s birthday. Would you buy them a gift even if they didn’t buy you one for yours?

Yeah, I like getting gifts for people. Especially if I know them well, and have an understanding of what they like/want/need.

4. You win the lottery. Lump sum or small payments over a period of time? Why?

ALL of it NOW. I’m an economics brain. A dollar today is worth more than a dollar tomorrow.

5. Do you like your music loud, or at a reasonable level?

Is loud not reasonable? What is a reasonable level?

6. Are you a beach person, or a snowy mountain person?


7. When do you brush your teeth? 

FIRST thing in the morning, and last (or almost last) thing at night. And usually somewhere in between.

8. Can you watch scary movies alone?

That would be my preference.

9. Soft bed or firm? And in fantasy land, who’s in it with you?

More firm than soft, I think. Babe. Who else?

10. Would you rather stay home all day, or be out and about?

I haaaaate being at home all day. I need to get fresh air. Be outside. Take a walk. SOMEthing. I also hate traffic, so I’m not a fan of being out in it all day. *shrugs

11. What’s one of your worst memories (that you are comfortable sharing)?

My great-grandmother’s grief after the death of my grandfather.

12. Do you like to keep the peace or be confrontational?

I HATE confrontation. Hate it. I prefer to address issues in a calm, un-accusing manner.

I know that when someone addressing something with me and uses YOU YOU YOU and makes assumptions, it really pisses me off, and I am automatically on the defense, and their message is lost on me. I just shut down. Either I tell them to screw off, or I am completely unresponsive and whenever they feel they are done, I am happy to be on my way. Knowing this, I do my best not to take that approach, but to center what I am saying around me, and the way that I feel rather than what they DO DO DO.

13. Are you more likely to be with a large group of people, or a few close friends?

A few.

14. What are your plans for October?

Launch series of children’s books. That’s about it.

15. If money were not a problem, where would you like to live?

Canada. Not sure which province.

16. What is your ideal profession?

If I had children, stay-at-home mumma!

Senior management of a non-profit organization, preferably geared toward youth work.

And writer.

17. Are you close to your Mom and Dad?

Close enough.

18. What is one fear that you can’t seem to overcome?

Hmmm… Of animals, I guess.

19. Are you good at math?

Exceptional even!


If you feel like answering the questions, share the link so I can read them. 🙂

11 Questions from Janie

I love getting tagged. I keep telling you so that you can tag me whenever you’re tagged. Hahaha. Janie fell for my trick and tagged me. YAY!

1.) What is your biggest regret in life?

I really put a lot of effort into acting intentionally. I never want to regret. I think, move, act, and exist with purpose. Every decision I’ve made has been based on a combination of my desire and resources at my disposal. I can honestly say that I have no regrets. Everything I have done has been with great purpose, even if it came with a price.

One thing that I’ve looked back on a few times is my move back to The Bahamas (from Canada). I really don’t belong here, and I’d much rather be in Canada. That doesn’t change the fact that I needed to return. I felt the need, although I did not know why. Shortly after my return, my great-grandmother decided to close her business – one that I grew up in. I spent my Saturdays, my summer vacations, and Christmas breaks in her store. I made a lot of my own money helping out in that store. I knew that I would miss it when it was gone. I was happy to be in Nassau to work in the store during it last few months.

My mother got ill soon after that. She has been hospitalized twice. Being in Canada would not have served me well during those times. My grandmother’s health also declined. With every passing month, it got worse, and ended in her death. How would I have dealt with that, in another country? How would I ever get to a place of forgiveness (of myself) for staying in Canada for my own comfort, forsaking the life that I could have been living in proximity to those that I care about?

Regrets? I have none. Reasons? I have many.

2.) What makes you angry?

Ignorance. Hatred. Unfair judgment.

3.) Are you capable of forgiving and forgetting?

No. Forgiving, yes. Forgetting, no. It is right to forgive. It is unwise to forget.

4.) What do you consider the biggest fight you’ve ever had in your life?

The biggest physical fight I’ve ever had was with an ex. He followed me, ran ahead of me, and eventually trapped me in a dark, empty parking lot on my university campus. There was a lot of struggle. Residence security and police became involved. It was a bad scene. I’m happy to say that I no longer suffer trauma from what occurred. I remember it, but it is not a large part of who I am today. I suffered quite a bit over the next few weeks, but counselling and the support of my friends really helped. Let me also say that I realize that the same event could have drastically different impacts on others.

I also had another sort of fight. Hatred took up residence in me. It did not seem to want to leave me. The things that I saw and experienced at a young age made me a hateful, cold, bitter person. As I child, I freely told my father that I hated him. I harboured a great deal of anger against a lot of his family – people who took care of me – because I didn’t think they were good people. They didn’t fight for what was right. They stood by and let bad things happen. There was a lot that I absorbed. I was not expressive, so I held onto a lot of pain. I had things to say, and no one to say them to. This ended up taking a major toll on my health. When people say that you can become physically ill from emotional stress, trauma, unexpressed feelings and the like, believe it. It was a huge battle I had to fight against large parts of myself (and/or what became me). It was years of slow, hard battle, and there are probably still scars, but the wounds have healed.

5.) What is the ugliest part of your personality?

Devil’s advocate syndrome. It’s something I have to learn to control. I’d practiced it for a long time as a way to make decisions for myself, and anticipate any opposition that may arise. It is now a part of me, and I do it automatically. I constantly have to stop myself from saying things in response to the most rudimentary of comments. I don’t want to become an eternal pessimist, all because I am a (strong) realist.

6.) Do you choose to see the best or the worst in people? Why?

I start everyone off with 100%, and leave it to them to cause its decline. That being said, I trust my instincts, and keep my guard up, and my striking fist ready. It’s a contradiction, I know. I have very heightened senses, and I can tell a lot about a person by their words and actions. I see intentions beyond what is readily shared with me. I’ve never been proven wrong, so I continue to trust my instincts. I have them for a reason. So I guess I look for the best, but remain prepared for the worst. I’m also the last and final devil’s advocate. If you need a critique, I am the one.

7.) Do you think other life forms exist in the universe?

I know that it is possible. There isn’t much that I don’t think is possible. The universe is vast, and I inhabit a small part of it. It would be crazy for me to think that I, and my kind, are all that there is. Am I particularly interested in finding out for certain? No. It’s of no consequence to me, as far as I can tell.

8.) If God were to grant you a wish, what would it be?

The resources that would allow me to share life lessons that I’ve gained in my 25 short years on this earth. To be able to teach. To inspire. To encourage. For my education and my passion to marry into a life of fulfillment, knowing that I am living my purpose. I know for certain that my life experiences were not meant to just happen to me. They happened for me. To be something for others.

9.) What would you do if a stranger threw a spoon at you? (This happened to me!)

WHAT?! I have no idea! That’s pretty absurd. Does the spoon hit me? I think that would make a difference, somehow. If it doesn’t hit me, and no further attempts are made, I’d probably shrug it off and go about my business. If it hits me, I guess I’d be in a 10 second state of shock and immovability. Then I’d repeatedly hit the person with the spoon. In the face.

10.) You are sky diving and you realize that you can’t open your parachute so, in a few moments you are about to die. What do you think would be your last thoughts?

What a beautiful world. What a beautiful final sight. This is the best way to leave the world. Seeing it from God’s point of view, in all of its splendor. Untainted by the endless chatter of people, the raging to-do list, or the all-encompassing concern for self. Just being of the tiniest dots in a vast universe, with the best view possible of the planet I once inhabited, abused, abhorred, and misunderstood.

11.) What will you do tomorrow?

Tomorrow, I will run. I will work. I will write. I will drink water. I will show love to my Babe. I will start having breakfast again. I will create a new budget sheet. I will edit. I will be the best me that I can be.


Well, that was fun. And maybe a little intense. Those questions were awesome. Thanks, Janie!

Now, for anyone who wants to answer 11 questions, here ya go:

  1. Who has had the most influence on you?
  2. What is one childhood event that helped to shape your present self?
  3. What’s your favourite candy?
  4. Cream or milk in your tea/coffee/hot chocolate?
  5. What is your favourite form of exercise?
  6. What book do you highly recommend?
  7. What country would you like to visit?
  8. How do you like your veggies cooked?
  9. When is the best time to take a vacation?
  10. Who is your favourite tv family?
  11. What blog should I check out?

Tagged Again!

B&B has some questions for me. I’ve already tagged 11 people yesterday, so today I’ll bend the rules. I’ll just answer the questions.

  1. What is the weirdest question you’ve ever been asked? I was asked to confirm that I would actually have sexual relations with a female. Kind of awkward. Lol.
  2. Given the choice of time travel, would you go back in time or forward? I would go forward. I’m not as interested in the past as I am excited for the future.
  3. What is your favorite late-night snack? Tea with pan-toasted bread. I like the bread buttered on both sides, and put in the frying pan long enough to go from yellow to brown, and get nice and melty. 🙂
  4. Tell us your weirdest dream. About three times, I had a dream that my dad was trying to kill me. He chased me through my great-grandmother’s house with our family in various rooms, ignoring him as he chased me with a knife. One of my cousins even sat at the kitchen table, filing her nails. In the first dream, he was trying to kill me because he thought I told people about my mother’s pregnancy (in the dream). I don’t know the reason in the other dreams. Weird enough, yes?
  5. Describe the perfect date. Low-key. Quality time in very comfortable weather. Fruit and dessert. Smoothies and tea. Good movies, good books. (This is obviously for Babe and me.)
  6. What song is stuck in your head? Breathe Again – Toni Braxton. It just played. And I heart Toni.
  7. What is the best way to develop a positive attitude? By living in the present moment with an optimistic view to the future.
  8. If you could invite four people-living or dead- to a dinner party, who would they be? Honestly, they’d be the same friends and family I already invite to dinners, lunches, beach days, etc. Vanessa, Jess, Ash, Odaz… Babe is a given.
  9. Who is your look-alike? My mother, I guess.
  10. What is your answering machine away message? If you don’t have one, you can make it up! Please leave a message.
  11. It’s said that you learn something new every day. What did you learn today? There are very picky people in the world. They can make things very difficult. Still, this does not define them. Picky people can be nice people.

Feel free to answer the same questions in a post of your own and link back here, or answer in the comments.

Five Question Friday

1. What’s your favorite way to spend down time (alone or with a significant other)?
Alone: Reading, writing, eating fruit, drinking tea
w/ my siggy: snacking, having tea, watching movies, talking about random things, and snugglin’ up! 🙂
2. Are you the kind of person that wants things more as soon as you know you can’t have it?
No, not at all. Never been the big-eye kind. I’m usually pretty content with what I have. What I want is generally in my reach, even if I have devise a plan, save, and wait a little bit.
3. If you were given $1000 to spend on yourself, what would you buy?
So much, yet so little! If I have to spend it on myself, I’d invest in a few things for my writing corner. I’d like an untreated wooden desk. There’s a place here called “WoodYou” that sells wooden furniture that isn’t stained or painted. I’d love to get it from there. Then, I’d find the right stencils to put a cool design on the border of it. Then stain it. Then, I’d get a nice, wooden chair, and a cushion. You know the ones that you sit on, and they have strings so you can tie them under the chair? Yesss… WANT! Then I’d outfit the space with a desk lamp, put up a corkboard, purchase notebooks, journals, pens of different colours, and lots of post-it notes. That should burn the $1000.
If I could get away with not spending it all on myself, I’d go grocery shopping for great ingredients, and invite some good friends/family over for a nice meals. I’d also get some cool little giveaway item that everyone can keep to remember the night.
4. Do you ever go out to eat by yourself?
I haven’t done it in a long time because there’s always choice company these days, but I used to. A lot.
5. What company would you want to do a blog review for?
What’s stopping me from doing a blog review that I wanna do? Now, if we’re talking blog-review-for-goodies, then BARNES & NOBLE!
Link up to this week’s 5QF.
As always, you’re welcome to answer the questions in the comments. I like hearing from you. 🙂

Meme Stealing

Sunday Stealing: The 99’er Meme: Part 1

Cheers to all of us thieves!
1) Put your iTunes on shuffle. Give me the first 6 songs that pop up.
No iTunes on my (work) computer. My iPod is on the speaker dock, so I’ll just share the songs that play
Save Him – Justin Nozuka
Mama Look a Boo Boo – Harry Belafonte (PLEASE listen to this if you never have. SO funny. It’s about children thinking they’re father is too ugly to be their real dad. They call him a “boo-boo” and the dad is not amused. The mother, on the other hand, thinks they’re just having fun with him.)
Wishing I Was There – Natalie Imbruglia
Do It – Nelly Furtado
Just Like Heaven – The Cure
2) If you could meet anyone on this earth, who would it be?
I’m not much for meeting people. I’ve only ever really wanted to meet the love of my life. The rest of it doesn’t matter. I guess it would be nice to meet some of my favourite authors.

3) Grab the book nearest to you, turn to page 23, give me line 17.

No books around.

4) What do you think about most?

Being fulfilled.

5) What does your latest text message from someone else say?

As opposed to my latest text message from myself? Oh, ok. Let’s see.

6) Do you sleep with or without clothes on?

Depends on the temperature. Lol.

7) What’s your strangest talent?

I struggle to figure out what normal talents I have. Strange talents are even more out there.

8) Women…. (finish the sentence); Men…. (finish the sentence)

Women come in all shapes and sizes. Men do as well.

9) Ever had a poem or song written about you?


10) When is the last time you played the air guitar?

Lol. I don’t know.

11) Do you have any strange phobias?

Strange? No.

12) Ever stuck a foreign object up your nose?

What the heck?! No.

13) What’s your religion?

Walk in Love.

14) If you are outside, what are you most likely doing?

Walking to or from the car.

15) Do you prefer to be behind the camera or in front of it?


16) Simple but extremely complex. Favorite band?

17) What was the last lie you told?

I don’t know. It’s rare that I lie.

18) Do you believe in karma?

By whatever name it is given, yes.

19) What does your URL mean?


20) What is your greatest weakness; your greatest strength?

They are the same. The ability to shut parts of me on and off in seconds.

21) Who is your celebrity crush?

Toni Braxton, I guess.

22) Have you ever gone skinny dipping?

*giggles* Ok, no.

23) How do you vent your anger?

I really don’t get angry. I get upset, yes. Angry? No. I vent by writing, I guess.

24) Do you have a collection of anything?


25) Do you prefer talking on the phone or video chatting online?

Depends on who it is.

2011 Meme

Sunday Stealing: The 2011 Year End Meme

1. What did you do in 2011 that you’d never done before?

Dated a female.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I don’t make them. I think they’re silly. If I wanna do something, I just do it. At any given time. I set goals too. I just don’t wait until one year is ending and another is beginning to do it. And when I make up my mind to do something, yeah, I do it.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?


4. Did anyone close to you die?


5. What countries did you visit?


6. What would you like to have in 2012 that you lacked in 2011?

A running schedule that I can stick to, reliable transportation, time and space to write.

7. What dates from 2011 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

February 13 (xo), February 24 (anniversary), September 1 (moved w/ Babe), October 17 (new job), November 29 (mother admitted to hospital), December 25 (bling, bling), December 30 (grandmother died)

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Landing my job.

9. What was your biggest failure?

Not writing as I should have.

10. What was the best thing you bought?

In 2011? Ummm… I didn’t really buy anything… Living room set? That counts, right?

11. Whose behavior merited celebration?


12. Whose behavior made you appalled and disgusted?

I don’t know. Beyonce, I guess. I just… hate her.

13. What song will always remind you of 2011?

Ummm… I’m gonna go wiiiiith… Stereo Love

14. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Beaching. Writing. Running.

15. What do you wish you’d done less of?

(My version of) Fighting. But it had to be done. Points had to be made.

16. Did you fall in love in 2011?

No. But I grew in love. Flew in love. I had the pleasure of rising in love.

17. What was your favorite new TV program?

Misfits. Since it’s the only one I know about and watched 3 episodes of. Is that new?

18. What was the best book you read?

Hmmm… Either A Piece of Cake (Cupcake Brown) or The Hunger Games (Suzanne Collins)

19. What one thing would have made your year measurably more satisfying?

Getting this job earlier in the year.

20. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011?

“Keep it clean, simple, and comfortable.”

21. What kept you sane?

Ummm… Music and my blog.

22. Who did you miss?

My Hali peeps.

23. Who was the best new person you met?

Ummm… How new is new, really? I’m gonna go with Odaz. She’s funnn-nyyy. And fun.

24. Tell us a valuable lesson you learned in 2011?

Sometimes it seems like your happiness is at the expense of someone else’s. Then, you have to realize that it’s in that person’s power to be happy, not yours. Just like it’s in your power to be happy. People can only take what you give them. Live for you. Your happiness for someone else’s is never a fair trade.

25. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

Who says, who says you’re not perfect?