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How Bad Are Drugs and Alcohol?

Day 20: Your views on drugs/alcohol

I’m not a fan of either one. I feel slightly more strongly about one than the other, but I know that I shouldn’t. Because they’re one in the same. Alcohol is a drug. And it should be viewed as such. But it’s not.

People like to say, “Everything in moderation,” but I like, “Really?! EVERYthing?!” Maybe not. Crystal meth in moderation. Cool beans. NO. NOT REALLY.

Some part me feel like people should stick with what is legal. Drugs are bad. Don’t do any of them. Alcohol is fine. Drink. Get drunk. Get loose. Just don’t drive. But wait. If you’ve had so much to drink that you can’t safely operate a vehicle, you’ve definitely had too much. If you’re doing things you won’t remember tomorrow, and wouldn’t have done if you hadn’t had so much to drink, you’ve had too much. But now… Think about this. What about SUGAR?! Imagine a regular 5 year old. Maybe 20 minutes after a nice, healthy breakfast. Okay. Now imagine the same 5 year old after a birthday party where lots of cake, candy, and ice cream was consumed. That 5 year old is probably doing things he/she wouldn’t do without the encouragement of a sugar rush. He/She has had too much. Bouncing off the walls. Is that any better than a person having too much to drink, and acting out of character? Not really, eh? It’s all unhealthy. So maybe moderation is best. Or maybe we should stay away from all of these things that have the power to take over our systems and turn us into different people.

Anyway, overall, I’m completely against the use of substances that cause harm to the body, mind, or spirit. We need to keep ourselves in the best of health. It’s difficult to know what is best because the rules keep changing. Wheat is good, wheat is bad. There are drugs (medicines) that make people feel better and ease symptoms, but have side effects that could cause death. Who’s to say that’s any better than illegal substances that make a homeless person who feels his/her life has no value feel better able to function and deal with the troubles of the world?

This seems like a question that should have a pretty cut and dry response, but it’s not so simple when you really think about it, is it? Be completely honest. Be logical. Be practical. Be literally. Idealistic, even. Really, truly THINK about it. The only thing you can really be sure of is what seems/feels right FOR YOU.

For me, illegal drugs are not an option. I’m not even down for marijuana. Now, if I had cancer, and it could cure me, or relieve me of horrible death-like symptoms, LIGHT ME UP A JOINT. I’ll smoke it. But I’ve never smoked anything in my life, and don’t plan on it. Alcohol is nothing special to me. I don’t make plans to go out and get “totally wasted” or anything. BUT. I love me some tequila. And I have had a few drunken nights. I much prefer being a little tipsy and remembering the fun I had though. Drunkenness isn’t my best state of being. That’s just me. Probably not the same for you.


What do YOU think? Ever done drugs? Do you consume alcohol regularly? Are (illegal) drugs and alcohol much worse than medicinal drugs, sugars, and other things in our diet that seem to be slowly killing us?


A Piece of Cake

Day 17 – A book you’ve read that changed your views on something

A Piece of Cake – Cupcake Brown

“You can’t say it’s impossible if you haven’t tried.” That’s a part of the intro on Cupcake’s website. Her story is nothing short of amazing. Cupcake (yes, that’s her real name) is completely open, honest, to-the-point, and frank in her memoir titled A Piece of Cake. The name of the book doesn’t do it justice. It feels like she’s given ALL of her to us. Put it on our laps, in our hands, on our ereaders. There. For us to take what we will from it. Her style is very relaxed, comfortable, and personal. The language is largely colloquial, and it’s as if the scene is unfolding right before your eyes. You see everything as she sees it – at 13 years old, at 20 years old, at 25 years old. You’re in her corner, cheering, begging, pleading, praying, laughing, and crying, wanting everything to work out.

If anyone asks me about the best books I’ve ever read, this spring to mind immediately. I read it earlier in the summer on my nook. It was meant to be a lunch hour read, but I ended up reading quite a bit at home, and whenever I had a chance. It’s a real page turner. I find it hard to say much about this book without spoiling it for potential readers, but still being able to express how GREAT it really is and how REWARDING it would be to read it.

Without revealing too much of her story, here are a few things about Cupcake’s first book:

  • Death happens. Early on.
  • Her family is torn apart and her life changes in the first few pages.
  • She becomes dependent on “the system.”
  • Every kind of abuse you can imagine .
  • Living on the streets.
  • Drugs.
  • Prostitution.
  • Poverty.
  • Job seeking.
  • Employment and unemployment.
  • Friendships, both good and bad.
  • Gangs.
  • In and out of school.
  • Going back to school.
  • Furthering education.
  • Addictions.
  • Rehabilitation.
  • Success.
After reading my points, if you think you no longer need to read the book because you know what’s going to happen, BELIEVE ME. YOU. HAVE. NO. IDEA. You, even after reading reviews, will be unsuspecting. You won’t know it’s coming. You’ll just hear the sound of your own heart breaking. You will feel the pain. You become a mother, wanting to protect the child in this story. You will be SHAKEN. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. that you remember you’re reading a TRUE STORY. You will fear. You will have faith. You will keep reading, wanting to know what happens next. You will want to know how it’s possible for the book that’s breaking your heart over and over again, making you pray to a God you may or may not believe exists, will ever come to a happy ending. It will be worth the read. You will gain insight. And FAITH. You will learn. A LOT.
  • Things are not always what they seem.
  • We really can do anything we put enough thought, time, and energy into.
  • There is a power greater than us, be it God, the universe, karma, or parts of the solar system seen or unseen.
  • We have the power to be great.
  • We can change our circumstances.
  • Addiction is REAL. And HARD. And undefinable. Often unrecognizable, especially if it is our own.
  • “The system” is flawed.
  • Rehabilitation is underrated. And underfunded.
  • One of the things we need most in life is SUPPORT.
I could go on and on, but I really don’t feel that I can do this book justice, having to leave work in 10 minutes. Get the book. It’s great. Even if you cry, and feel heart-broken, you will laugh. Don’t worry. You won’t be laughing AT Cup. You’ll be with her. She really holds your hand as you read her story. It’s worth it. This book has changed my view of addiction and rehabilitation. I’ve always been sympathetic to it, but did not understand it as well as I do now. At some point in my life, I was determined to live without people. I mean, without needing them, without talking to them, without showing any sign of weakness, or needing to take a break, rest, or lean. This book showed me that people are okay. Some of them may even be necessary parts of our lives. We can’t do it all alone. I also truly learned how great FAITH is, and how big it is compared to FEAR.
Quotes from A Piece of Cake:
“Always remember the acronym for “FEAR” can mean one of two things: Fuck Everything And Run or Face Everything And Recover.”
“It’s okay to be afraid. It’s not okay to let the fear STOP you.”